We named our blog "There is Love" after the Peter, Paul, and Mary song of the same title. We recognized our story fell into those powerful lyrics when they sang "woman draws her life from man and gives it back again...there is love."
We hope that our story and our reflections...our triumphs, challenges and frustrations will speak to you. We will often post as individuals...sharing our different viewpoints of many of the events we experience. Sometimes we will write as a couple. Always we will share with total honesty and openness.
If you find yourself living in a situation such as ours...where you or a loved one in your own family is coming to terms with homosexuality, whether in the context of a heterosexual marriage or not, please read on. We are not perfect but can show you why there can be hope, even if everything you know has suddenly been questioned.
PLEASE see the navigation bar on the right to find links to the various parts of our story as it currently has been experienced. We will tell new parts of the story on this main blog page in the future.
We are family. And we will always be family, though families do often change. Two years ago nearly, in the first few days of confronting this truth, we made two rules and we have stayed true to them at all times:
1) We write the rules for our family. No one will tell us how to do this...not family, not friends, not church, not society.
2) We won't allow anyone to choose sides. Anyone who feels the need to choose sides between us (or between us and our children) will just have to leave our lives. We will only allow people two choices: They can choose our family, just as we are, no matter how it looks, or they can not choose our family. We will not be divided.
Navigating through all of this is the hardest thing we've ever done as a couple and a family. But it has also literally saved our family; it has been the most painfully beautiful thing we've ever done. We welcome you into our world. It is a world of love, compassion, understanding, and of knowing that sometimes we just don't have the answers but we still have to proceed anyway.